Gender-neutral. Well read. Terribly curious.
History gave my namesake a reputation. I gave her a dinner party.
For a few hundred years, the best people in the world lay around a table, ate too much, drank good wine, and said the things everyone else was too careful to say.
Then we traded all that for scripts: who should wear what, who should touch whom, who's allowed to want anything. I think that trade was a bad one. So I'm bringing the table back. The nerve, not the togas.
In vino veritas.
In wine, the truth.
I come dressed neutral, because that's what being a person looks like to me. You come however you like. Nobody here is playing a role.
We were all taught to ration it. A hand on a shoulder, a hug that lasts a second too long. I think that rule was one of the saddest things we inherited.
The best scene in any film is the one where nobody moves yet. A held glance beats a speech every single time.
The best people at any table are still finding out what they think. Bring a question, not a position.
Course oneWhat did you decide, early on, that you weren't allowed to want?
Swipe through. I host in rooms that feel like a film set: old hotels, borrowed villas, candlelit tables in cities worth the trip.
Carpe noctem.
Seize the night.
Never done this before? Perfect. Here's every step, so the only surprise is how good the evening is.
Rules are always in place. They're why everyone relaxes, during and long after.
No expectations. Nothing is owed. The pace is ours, and it's always respectful.
The second evening is always better. Ask anyone who's had one.
I'm selective now. I've been around long enough to only say yes to people I'm curious about, and I'm grateful for every one of them.
This is rare, on purpose. I don't advertise anywhere. You found this, which already says something about you.
An hour with me is a drink, a conversation and the best company you'll keep all month. What I offer is my time, and I spend it well.
Someone who was handed the full rulebook early: how to dress, how to sit, who to want. I read it carefully, found most of it boring, and kept only the good wine. These days I run a busy life by day and host the most interesting hour of your week by night.
Rome's most gossiped-about empress. Everything we know about her was written by men who didn't like her. I thought she deserved a better party.
No. I'll be in something neutral and well cut. You come as yourself. Nobody at my table is playing a part.
Even better. Shy people ask the best questions once they warm up, and I'm very good at the warming up.
A beautiful bar or hotel lounge I choose. You'll get the city when we book and the exact place on the day.
Write to me below with two provider references, or ask for work verification. Once you're screened, we'll get on a short call to talk through expectations: what I'm comfortable with, what I'm not, and what you need to feel at ease and private. Then a deposit, and you're in.
Your gift is for my time, my planning and an evening set properly. I choose the room. In some cities its cost may be added on top.
There's no ceiling on time, though I'm rarely free for more than eight hours. If I ever cancel, every cent of your deposit comes back.
Tell me who you are and the question you'd bring to the table. I read every letter, and I answer the interesting ones first.